اوج سماع

 interview with the daughter of a Taliban fighter: I am afraid our father will kill me and my sisters
Nargis Hashimi August 17, 2021

Hafteh Montreal 

Maryam Sadat, a young girl in Kabul
Maryam Sadat, a young girl in Kabul who hides from her Taliban father and lives in fear
Maryam Sadat is a young girl who was born 20 years before the beginning of the first Taliban rule in Afghanistan; His father, Salam Jan, known as Mullah Basir, was one of the commanders of the Taliban in the area and forced his dumb mother to marry him. Maryam and her two sisters and a brother are the result of this forced marriage

Now that he grew up in Kabul with the mediation and cooperation of his mother's parents, far from his father's eyes, he unfortunately suffers from his father's threats and does not feel safe with the re-establishment of the Taliban government in Afghanistan. She fears her father might marry her to another Taliban member

In this issue, I conducted an interview with Maryam Sadat from Kabul, which has painful anecdotes

"I am an Afghan girl born in Kabul and have a brother and three sisters," said Maryam Sadat. "I am a girl who at any moment, seeing my dumb and oppressed mother and my ruthless and ruthless father, melts and falls to the ground like a candle"

?Dear Maryam Sadat, do you know your father and do you remember him

Maryam Sadat: Yes, I know my father very well; I was very young when I knew and saw him. I remember his cruelty from my childhood and his ugly behavior is etched in my mind

?How did your father commit an atrocity that never left your mind

"Salam Jan" known as "Mullah Basir", the father of Maryam Sadat, who is a Taliban fighter.
Maryam Sadat: My father is a tyrant; As far as I know, he is in the Taliban. He was a violent and fanatical man who always oppressed my innocent mother and beat us. When I was five, my father forcibly took my mother to the headquarters with me and my brother. There, his mother and father told him that his wife was dumb and had not read a word and was not a Muslim. I remember my grandparents tying my tongueless mother and legs and my father getting a tattoo on my face and my mother was in a lot of pain.

Many times my father would come to Kabul secretly at night and run away from us without my grandparents knowing. I even remember that he kept my mother away from us for six months and left us longing to see my mother.

He would come to our house at night and ask my grandparents for money, and my grandparents would give him money so that he would not hurt us. My father never had mercy on us and never paid for our food and expenses, only he extorted money from us and always disturbed us

?You said that your father took you to the headquarters, how did you come to Kabul again and who helped you

Maryam Sadat: I remember that my maternal grandparents came to the headquarters with great difficulty, even though they could not speak Pashto properly; They asked my paternal grandparents to let us take us back to Kabul; But he did not accept and did not allow. At night, with the help of my grandparents, we got to the car station and our midwife took us back to Kabul. As soon as we arrived in Kabul, my father could not travel freely to Kabul because it was an interim government; But he always sent warnings to my grandparents

?So who finances your living expenses and school expenses

Maryam Sadat: My parents and siblings have been financing our living expenses since childhood, and they suffered a lot for us, but they never gave up on us and did not forget that I am grateful to them from the bottom of my heart

?How do you feel when he does not know your mother's words and does not know your words in front of her

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Maryam Sadat: Well, expressing this feeling is not easy for me. I feel very bad; Because I can never, unlike others, understand my mother's heartbeat. This really hurts me. How difficult it is to not be able to talk to the closest person in your life and express your heartache. . This is really the worst feeling in the world

?You said that before the Taliban took control of Kabul, your father used to warn you over the phone. What did he want from 

Maryam Sadat: As soon as the Taliban advanced in the provinces, my father called me and insulted me and said that now the Americans have left Afghanistan and soon the Taliban government will win and I will come to power again and bring you to the headquarters and the government again. I begin with myself and marry you and my people when you are young. He threatens not only me, but also my family and myself and my mother's people. We study; But these warnings cause us to be unable to attend to our lessons and to be in fear.

?What would you say to your father if you saw him one day

Maryam Sadat: I will look her in the eyes and tell her that the father-daughter relationship is an inseparable and loving relationship, and the daughter is the father's great asset, and just as the daughter needs the father's love, the father still needs his daughter's warm and small hands.

In the meantime, I will complain to him that he never loved us and lived with his other wife, and made our eyes water many times, and left us in the grief of our father, and even frightened us, and warned us that our midwives and grandparents And he kills my kind grandfathers, who are our only sorrows.

?What are you most afraid of

Maryam Sadat: My biggest fear is that my father will find us and take me and my two siblings to the headquarters with him, and we, who are very interested in continuing our education, will not be able to study